The Survivor’s Guide to the Holidays

To start, lower any expectations you have about creating the perfect family holiday to make up for your shitty childhood. Because let’s be honest, there is no making up for that. Let’s make the goal more realistic: just getting through it is fantastic.


Learning to say #MeToo

This Saturday I stood on the steps of the Vancouver Art Gallery and added my voice to the collective Me Too. I joined with women and men who are survivors of sexual harassment and assault as we spoke about our lives, about the impact of what we have endured and the pain of not being … Continue reading Learning to say #MeToo

Contributing Author: Jodie Ortega

What was the most surprising thing about becoming a parent? I was surprised, delighted, and relieved to know that despite my childhood trauma and the belief systems that I was raised in that were designed to keep me small, I still had the capacity to love another human being unconditionally. Tell us about one of … Continue reading Contributing Author: Jodie Ortega

Contributing Author: Danielle Christopher

What was the most surprising thing about becoming a parent? After being told I couldn’t have kids naturally, I feel so lucky to be their mom. Tell us about one of your proudest parenting moments. My youngest is on the spectrum. We went through countless therapies and medical professionals trying to get help for her. … Continue reading Contributing Author: Danielle Christopher

Contributing Author: Dani Bostick

Once I figured out that silence is a burden, writing about trauma has not been difficult. The first time I wrote about my trauma was in my victim impact statement that I prepared for my perpetrator’s sentencing. I was paralyzed with fear at that point. That was three years ago-- I’m glad writing about trauma has become an outlet and not a source of fear.