By Lara Donachie With all the health care changes and challenges in today’s society, going to the doctor or dentist is difficult enough for the average person. With a history of childhood or adolescent sexual trauma, a medical appointment can become re-traumatizing if not handled with care by the survivor and provider. Think about it, … Continue reading Preparing and Advocating for Medical Care as a Trauma Survivor
by Lara Donachie About 19 years ago I came out as a lesbian, telling my family and friends was mostly smooth sailing except for the couple that I was afraid of disappointing. Even then I was pleasantly surprised at the love and acceptance that I received. My second "coming out" was telling everyone I am … Continue reading My Own Truth
We did the best we could to undo the lessons neglect, physical and sexual violence taught us growing up. But no one told us that there would come a time when we’d have to start the work all over again, and that time would coincide with motherhood. The degree will vary, but survivors come … Continue reading The Rise of the Trauma-Informed Mothers
By Dawn Daum Surviving in a detached state, the feels only penetrate so deep. Brain and body on high alert, a constant reminder of how fragile I am. I need reconstructive surgery on my bones, the broken foundation from which I’ve grown. Polarity exists more in my nervous system than in my mind. Thin skinned, hollowed … Continue reading Survivor’s State of Mind
To start, lower any expectations you have about creating the perfect family holiday to make up for your shitty childhood. Because let’s be honest, there is no making up for that. Let’s make the goal more realistic: just getting through it is fantastic.