What was the most surprising thing about becoming a parent?
After being told I couldn’t have kids naturally, I feel so lucky to be their mom.
Tell us about one of your proudest parenting moments.
My youngest is on the spectrum. We went through countless therapies and medical professionals trying to get help for her. She was diagnosed at the age of 3. I was told she would never speak. About 10 months passed and she formed a 4 word sentence verbally. When she called me ‘mommy’ for the first time at 4 ½ years old, all the blood sweat and tears melted away. She is almost 9 now and has a large vocabulary.
Was it difficult for you to participate in this project? What Strength did you pull from to get past the fear and contribute?
Actually, when I read about that the book was going to be re-branded, I asked to contribute. I have been diagnosed with PTSD for 2 years now and hadn’t gone public with it. It was time to do it in my words.
Do you believe participating in this project has changed you in any way? If so, how?
As I said above, it was time to tell my truth for not just my family, but for me. It is a brave thing to be honest with yourself and the world. Being courageous can help heal your soul.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned from your children?
Live in the moment. Sometimes it is about just eating Doritos for dinner. And that is okay.
When you are not writing or parenting, what do you love to do?
I run my daughter’s therapy program. It does take time to research, interview new team members and admin it all. I like to try to keep a step ahead of her.
I also take solace in my favorite chair, bowl of popcorn, cup of tea and a book to dive into. We don’t have extra family to help with childcare, so when our schedules align hubby and I slip away for a quiet lunch. It has been almost 25 years of marriage and he is my best friend.
Danielle has been writing about being motherless for the past seven years. Her articles have appeared on sites like: Yummy Mummy Club, Women’s Post, The Momoir Project, Parenting Express, Vancouver Mom and Oh Baby Magazine. Danielle’s essay “Not Daddy’s Little Girl” is in the anthology Parenting Without Judgment. “Motherless Moments” essay is in the collection of Wisdom Has A Voice. Danielle’s poem “ A Mother Is” won the 2010 contest on 5MoreMinutesWith.com. Danielle’s blog began due to readers’ responses to her previously published work on the loss of her mom, being a foster teen and swimming through the autism waters when her youngest was diagnosed on the spectrum.
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